Heres How to Make Your Wife Feel Special

Here's How to Make Your Wife Feel Special Relationships Spouses & Partners Print How to Make Your Partner Feel Special By Wayne Parker Waynes background in life coaching along with his work helping organizations to build family-friendly policies, gives him a unique perspective on fathering. Learn about our editorial policy Wayne Parker Reviewed by Reviewed by Amy Morin, LCSW on August 31, 2019 facebook twitter instagram Amy Morin, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, author of the bestselling book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Dont Do, and a highly sought-after speaker. Learn about our Wellness Board Amy Morin, LCSW Updated on February 04, 2020 Hero Images / Getty Images More in Relationships Spouses & Partners Marital Problems LGBTQ Violence and Abuse Making your partner feel special and loved requires a little knowledge and some effort. But its these simple and often small gestures that help express and reinforce the love you have for one another. Below are a just a few ways to make your partner feel special and improve the quality of your intimate relationships by showing your appreciation in the way they like to receive it, taking responsibility for your emotions, supporting their goals, and sending sweet messages throughout the day. Learn to Speak Your Partners Love Language Gary Chapmans book The Five Love Languages has changed the way many people talk about getting their needs met in relationships. Chapman makes the case that people receive messages of love in different ways, which he refers to as their love language. The five languages he identifies are: Words of affirmationQuality timePhysical touchReceiving giftsActs of service Perhaps your primary love language is words of affirmation and your partners is quality time. Hearing from them how wonderful you are is one thing that communicates love to you, but that love language might not work for them. Instead, your partner may feel most loved when doing an activity together. Take time to discover which love language works for your partner and then make an effort to speak their love language. Learn to Self-Regulate While love languages can help communicate understanding and appreciation, according to a 2017 study published in Personal Relationships, relationship satisfaction is less determined by aligned love languages and more determined by the ability of both partners to self-regulate.?? Taking responsibility for your moods and not expecting your partner to make everything better is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. A 2010 study of partners working towards positive changes in their relationships found that positive relationship evaluations were correlated more with self-focused improvement than with partner-focused improvement.?? Especially when you are in conflict with one another, focusing on your own growth and taking responsibility for your contributions is the best way to improve the relationship. Share Chores and Responsibilities According to a 2018 review in the scientific journal Emotion, people experience gratitude when they perceive their partner to be doing something for them over themselves.?? You may feel like your to-do list never seems to end. But doing things small or large that are on your partners to-do list, even when youve got a full plate yourself, can show how special they are to you. Ask your partner, What can I do to make your day better? Support Their Goals While your own self-growth is very important for relationship satisfaction, your partner still wants to feel like you are invested in the relationship and their goals, too. According to a 2014 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, people who received active messages of support from their partners for their self-expansion reported higher relationship satisfaction.?? Send Sweet Messages According to a study review, sending spontaneous text messages helps to convey a sense of continuous presence in your partners life. The feeling that conversation could be taken up at any time (respecting of healthy boundaries) and even across distance, communicates a sense of closeness and helps construct a sense of shared space.?? During the time you spend apart, consider sending a text that shows your appreciation. Let them know youre thinking about them. It can be as simple as a flirty message, sharing something that reminded you of them, or simply asking them how their day is going.?? A Word From Verywell The key to making your partner feel special and loved is a genuine desire to focus on them and their needs, wants, and wishes. The ideas above are ways you can routinely express your love for your partner with simple acts, but every person and every relationship is different. With time and experience, aim to discover the things your partner appreciates most and use that knowledge to guide your acts of love. Listening to What Your Partner Wants